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I was wondering the other day what love means to us and how it transforms itself from one form to another after you tie the knot.

I mean love is entirely different when you are young and carefree but it has different meaning altogether when you become responsible after marriage and starts working

Me and my wife were poles apart when we were dating !!

She used to be the sophisticated  bold, happening, beautiful, topper in her stream and most sought after type

And I,

An average looking, shy, down to earth and just acceptable to society type

We were not matched for each other at all but who can deny fate. It has great powers to bring two unmatched individuals to become one.

I always believed that she was the one made for me but was sure she can never be mine. She was way out of my league but I guess I was in to the league of extraordinary gentleman.

As I wrote fate has its own way we fell in love, she liked my simplicity and I loved her attitude n beautiful heart.

We were madly in love when we dated in our student lives.

For us love meant,

  • Talking for hours
  • Sending hugs, kisses, flowers, cards sms, mails
  • Thinking all sorts of things about each other and smile
  • Explore each other
  • Looking in each other eyes and smile like there is nothing else in the world to make us happy.
  • Singing songs to each other
  • Letting the frustration out of each other after the hard day and become serene
  • Go on dates and explore  restaurants, park and picnic spots all over the city.

Now we are married and things changed. We have a small 2 year old kid in our family. She is taking care of all of us and I am the earning member with very little help at home.

Some time she says you are not the person I loved when we were younger.

I believe I am still the same but circumstances changed. We are both busy and always running around to make a living and taking care of our son.

I feel we are still in love but love has entirely new meanings in our lives.

I feel love is in the air when,

  • U ask me how was my day after a hard day and showers ur love and care on me.
  • Kiss me good night and smile before we sleep
  • Arrange everything for me and remind me always to take care of myself in unique new ways.
  • We always try to find our time and when we get it we  sleep in each other’s arms due to exhaustion
  • We hold hand in hand or lie next to each other and talk about our day
  • We try to find reasons to celebrate and talk about our college day adventures
  • We help each other with the daily chores and sometimes go extra mile to keep each other happy.
  • We play around with our 2 year old, dance on songs and laugh together on stupid things

I think there are more than enough reasons which makes me think I m deeply, madly, passionately and truly in love with you and wanna spend the rest of my life with u.

Each progressing day makes me think how much I love u and care for you but don’t get the time to express myself like I use to do when we were dating.

Life is just awesome with you !!!!

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We make some life changing decisions in life, being parent is one of them. Took this decision after two years of our marriage. In these two years we did everything we wanted and went to some of the most beautiful places where a couple should go and spend time together. We were living a dream, a dream which we saw when we were kids.

We knew raising a kid was tough but didn’t know it will change our life forever. Anyway we took the decision and executed it soon. Life was really tough for me as a husband in the 9 months of my wife’s pregnancy.

Economy was in bad shape, prices were touching sky, Inflation was on a mission towards moon and life was really tough in every sense. My economical condition took a plunge downwards with medical bills and my wife’s unusual demands, had to work hard in day at office serving office boss and after office hours it was all home minister’s work. There was no “me” time, no travel, no street food, no late night movies, no getting drunk, no romance but certainly there were enough “YES” which made me feel good and be positive about life.

Somehow these nine months passed and the D Day came. We went to see doctor and she said the very next day we will try for a natural delivery. My better half and me went for a date, had our most liked food on that evening and spent a wonderful time together thinking about the consequences day after.

Next morning I took my wife to the hospital and admitted her. It was a tense time for both of us as my kid was adamant for not coming out and changed positions inside my wife’s tummy. I guess he was comfortable inside and didn’t wanted to come out and it was difficult for doctors to bring my kid out in a natural manner.

After trying for the whole day doctors gave in. They decided to operate after an hour and this was it. I got tensed and called up everybody from my family there. They took my wife to the operation theater and I got tensed again this time and believe me it was intense this time. There was a fear inside me about the probable events that can occur. I prayed to god and continuously wandered here and there near the OT.

After an hour doctor called me inside the OT. I was nervous and tensed, entered inside the door and got the news “Congratulations it’s a Boy” I asked immediately about my wife and found out she was okay. The happiness was beginning to come with a grin over my face . Nurse took me to one side of the OT where I met my baby for the first time.

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Everybody left me there to be with my baby. I messaged my parents waiting outside about the events occurred and went close to the little angel who had just entered in to our world.

I stood there in one corner and couldn’t kept my eyes away from him unable to sink in the happiness which swept all over me. Didn’t believed I was looking at my son. It was a miracle. I was smiling like anything and was continuously looking at my son. He woke up and made small movements with his eyes and hands and I fell in love with him.

Nurses took him to a room where everybody came, wished each other and later my wife came in with lots of pain due to operation. After some time she came in her senses and took our son in her hands and forgot everything. Just smiled and kept smiling. I stayed with her and my son for night and couldn’t slept as my son was getting awake and crying every 2 hours. That was the only time when I felt happy about my son getting up and crying at night.

It was 10-11-10. It was a day to remember and after two years I can still feel the excitement which I had during that time. Its an amazing feeling which only a parent can understand and nobody else. One of the best time of anybody’s life. I love being a father ever-since and loved my little one with all the love I have.

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Its 5 am right now and I am in train, sitting and writing this. My kid has spoilt my night. He is a free spirited kid, doesn’t like restrictions. Love to roam around in bed and definitely does not like noises while he is in deep slumber. Trains are all opposite in India. I was thinking of my fellow blogger “Teeny Bikini” post “6 Reasons not to have kids” and was getting in to the nitty gritties of it. Seriously one part of mind is saying that there are more than 1000 reasons “not to have kids” but other part still loves the fatherhood. It’s awesome for not getting irritated after this kind of bad night, There are cramps in my body due to sleeping in such confined place that too along with my son and still love is emanating from my heart. Its little strange but true.

In reality, I have loved being a father since the birth of my son 2 years ago.

  • Had many sleepless nights. In fact some nights have cried along with him out of tiredness, sleep deprivation and irritation. Some nights were even worse when I am out of the world in the couch and my kid is playing all over me.
  • Expenses have gone up steep upwards. In fact there is no bank balance now days. I have seen six figures on my account when I was a bachelor.  In fact wife also reduces the digits on your back account straight away.
  • Sex life is all F@?! Up. I and my wife are always tired every time, anytime of the day.  We don’t have time for even taking a proper bath, not even together.  What a life yaar!!!
  • As a couple we have not gone on a long trip to any place. In the mean time we have tried several short trips and it was okay. One long trip was a disaster, so we have not dared to venture on that territory again.
  • Never been on a romantic date with my wife in the last 2 years. In fact romance is out of our life soon after our kid was born. No candle light, no movie, no long drives, no ice-cream parties without headache.
  • Always looking for ” me time”  as I don’t get it. I had loved watching movies and TV sitting lazily in the couch. That’s a history now days. I am always outside for my official work and when I am home I am on duty for my wife and my kid. So basically I am working 18*7.
  • You wouldn’t believe before my kid people used to tease me that I don’t get angry at all. I am a cool type, the image I was okay with. Now you can call me an angry not so young man and my wife despises this as she is the one who bears the brunt and gives me equal and opposite reactions.
  • Have not slept well since a long time, seems to be an era. I and my wife were known as sleeping beauties through all our life. In-fact, after we were married, we were always late to our respective offices due to over sleeping. Our milkman, maid used to complain of ringing bell number of times while we were asleep. I used to love that but now I cant sleep more than 8 hours which is normal but abnormal for us and we don’t like it.

Actually the list goes on and on it but I don’t want to commit a second mistake ever in my life. One kid is more than enough for a life time. I wonder how people can take care of more than one. I have seen people holding world record in this category and I praise them for this dare but at the same time prey for their well being.

Still if you would ask me how you feel after taking a kid. I would say I love it and advise couple to have atleast 1 kid. You know what is so special about this love? I am sure all the parents would agree with me on this.

  • You will forget everything when your kid smiles at you for whatever reasons in the planet and you would want to love him back.
  • When he/she says “papaa” your life will go upside down and you will feel on top of the world. Its an awesome feeling.
  • When your kid holds your hand while he/she is attempting something new is a beautiful feeling and you would want that to happen over and over again. After some time your kid will also say enough dad, I am ok now, you need to let me go.
  • When your kid wants to play with you when you are tensed, you will forget everything about the tension and will start enjoying the play.
  • When your kid insists you to take him/her out. You will leave all important jobs and leave. You would want to make your son/daughter happy.
  • When your kid cries for something, looks at you in desperation to hold him and suddenly you will feel the most important person in the whole world.

The list goes on and on for this category as well. In fact it’s like 2 side of a coin. Both sides are relevant at the end of the day you can have only one side.

There are pros and cons of being a parent. You need to decide weather you want to be happy or you want to happy and responsible as well. I opted for the second one and I love it after these 2 years. I guess now I will have my freedom as well along with the great feeling of being a parent.

Here’s is me n my little one….

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