Letter to the One I Love


Dear Charu,

I love you and I really mean it from the bottom of my heart. It’s awesome to be with the perfect someone, who is your companion at the same time your “Best Friend”. I have spent half of my life being with you and want to complete it together. You are my beginning as well as end.

It all started when we were teens, we had a spark between us. It slowly and steadily went on to become a bond which is immeasurable and immortal now. I thank god with each passing day for this life and pray him for the same companion in my next life and lives after that. I cannot imagine my life without you. It only grows stronger and mature with each passing day.

Life feels complete being with you. It’s just that I miss you more and realize your true worth in my life, when I am away from you. You are my bright light on a dark and scary path as somebody quoted somewhere “You are my eternal sunshine”.  It fits perfectly here and feels its written for me only. I guess all the lovers think like me.

I regret the days when I have hurt you and made you cry. It seems foolish now as I have put my ego in between our relationship. I promise I will take care of you and will never make you cry. Even if I make you cry ever, I will quickly make it up to you. I will start finding new ways to love you and make you happy.

You are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen in my life. Your eyes tell me everything about your mood in a blink of a second but damn they are so sexy. Your lips are juicy and expressive. They express your inner feelings in a way which can only be understood by none other than me. Your angelic face backed by your brown hair adds up to your beauty and it gives me immense happiness and a sense of proud that I am your companion and I got the opportunity to spend the rest of my life with you.

Yours Love,


Love is in the Air


I was wondering the other day what love means to us and how it transforms itself from one form to another after you tie the knot.

I mean love is entirely different when you are young and carefree but it has different meaning altogether when you become responsible after marriage and starts working

Me and my wife were poles apart when we were dating !!

She used to be the sophisticated  bold, happening, beautiful, topper in her stream and most sought after type

And I,

An average looking, shy, down to earth and just acceptable to society type

We were not matched for each other at all but who can deny fate. It has great powers to bring two unmatched individuals to become one.

I always believed that she was the one made for me but was sure she can never be mine. She was way out of my league but I guess I was in to the league of extraordinary gentleman.

As I wrote fate has its own way we fell in love, she liked my simplicity and I loved her attitude n beautiful heart.

We were madly in love when we dated in our student lives.

For us love meant,

  • Talking for hours
  • Sending hugs, kisses, flowers, cards sms, mails
  • Thinking all sorts of things about each other and smile
  • Explore each other
  • Looking in each other eyes and smile like there is nothing else in the world to make us happy.
  • Singing songs to each other
  • Letting the frustration out of each other after the hard day and become serene
  • Go on dates and explore  restaurants, park and picnic spots all over the city.

Now we are married and things changed. We have a small 2 year old kid in our family. She is taking care of all of us and I am the earning member with very little help at home.

Some time she says you are not the person I loved when we were younger.

I believe I am still the same but circumstances changed. We are both busy and always running around to make a living and taking care of our son.

I feel we are still in love but love has entirely new meanings in our lives.

I feel love is in the air when,

  • U ask me how was my day after a hard day and showers ur love and care on me.
  • Kiss me good night and smile before we sleep
  • Arrange everything for me and remind me always to take care of myself in unique new ways.
  • We always try to find our time and when we get it we  sleep in each other’s arms due to exhaustion
  • We hold hand in hand or lie next to each other and talk about our day
  • We try to find reasons to celebrate and talk about our college day adventures
  • We help each other with the daily chores and sometimes go extra mile to keep each other happy.
  • We play around with our 2 year old, dance on songs and laugh together on stupid things

I think there are more than enough reasons which makes me think I m deeply, madly, passionately and truly in love with you and wanna spend the rest of my life with u.

Each progressing day makes me think how much I love u and care for you but don’t get the time to express myself like I use to do when we were dating.

Life is just awesome with you !!!!

Me and My Better Half


Husband wife relationship is unique but full of surprises. It has lots of sexy curves but unfortunately some goes downwards.

I am married for five years now and feel I have more or less understood my better half but She gives me shocks after shocks and I keep wondering what’s cooking and coming next.

You can share anything with your wife without even thinking except about other fairer sex.

If you do so by mistake, she will make sure you listen and get in back foot all your life in every arguments.

You can’t even talk about them or can’t see them. The result is always same.

You are screwed.

I have an habit of keeping things out of place like towel,news paper as per my convenience which I guess every normal man has.

First I got instructed for keeping things in place.

Later I was scolded

And Now

I am screwed every time I make this type of mistake.

I am sure after few years I will be hanged such stupid mistakes.

So I live in fear and make sure there is no outburst from my side, so that everything is cool and calm.

Expectations has no boundaries in married life.

Initially I was expected to keep things organised n tidy which I started doing to avoid arguments.

Later she wanted me to do few household chores along with keeping things organised and tidy.

When I started doing both

She said I don’t compliment her these days.

She gets irritated if she has left an empty bottle for me to fill and I don’t do it


I have overlooked a stain somewhere which otherwise she will tell me or will do it on her own

I guess its her mood so I keep my mouth shut and do whatever she says.

Always expects some thing or the other which I don’t get it on my own for obvious reasons and need to be told.

I think its best for man to be calm and cool at these times  and do what she says. Its just few minutes of pain.

Result : Peace at home and mind for a much longer time than you expected. Hours of gain.

Anger has its own place in our lives with different meanings

She can display it anytime with reasons attributed to external factors but I am not allowed to show at all as it hurts her and she feels deep pain in her heart.

Anger towards the kid can be increased or decreased based on her mood or due to our arguments and when I tell her to stop

She keeps getting angry at all sorts of people who are distantly relative to us and when I say why do u care and spoiling your mood.

She says I don’t care for her.

I remember when we started dating I used give her enough time and whatever money I had for her shopping.

There was no home, no car and my expenses were minimal as I was living alone.

Now my salary tripled but major chunk goes to EMI’s and what’s left spent in for household expenses.

She says I am changed after marriage as I don’t have time and enough money for shopping.

I am told to stop her when she thinks of buying anything even slightly expensive by her own self.

I do that all the time

She says you don’t allow me to buy anything.

You have changed.

I am always on my toes to keep my behavior against social limits.

She does take care of our kid very well but expects me to handle few things without saying.
A difficult one as I don’t understand when her mood is off. When is she expecting me to do and what ?

I think the list goes on and doesn’t end till the end of our lives. The problems has no ending but we all try to go on with it.

Life is so simple but we all try to make it complicated and complex. We end up fighting with each other for petty issues

Goa : Hot and Happening

We had heard a lot about Goa and its beaches all my life. I always wanted to visit the place with my girlfriend but she never showed interest. Never had a chance to go there with my college friends even after staying so close to the place. One day myself and my better half were chatting casually about a destination for the holidays coming up and finalized Goa in an instant. It was a quick decision and in no time we were on a flight to Mumbai from Kolkata. It’s like far-east to far-west of India. We took a bus from Mumbai in the evening after spending whole day with my brother in law.

So finally we were on the journey to Goa.

Its located in the west coast of India with an area of 3702 square kilometers. It is divided in to two parts i.e. North Goa and South Goa. The sea line is of Arabian sea and considered to be one of the most beautiful sea line in the world. It has 105 kms of Konkan coast stretching across the state of Goa providing a wide range of choice in beaches to suit everybody’s needs. When it comes to beaches, the visitor is spoilt for choice. North Goa has Sinquerim, Candolim, Calangute, Baga, Anjuna, Vagator, Morjim and Arambol beaches. South Goa has Velsao, Majorda, Betalbatim, Colva, Benaulim, Varca, Cavelossim, Mobor and Betul beaches. The other place you can see in Goa are Arvalem Caves, Rock Cut Caves of Khandepar, Arvalem Waterfalls, Kesarval Spring, Mayem Lake, Rock Art Museum, Aguada Fort, Cabo De Rama Fort, Chapora Fort, Rachol Fort, Reis Magos, Terekhol Fort, Cabo Raj Niwas (Raj Bhavan), Corjuem Fort and the ruins of the Fortress of Colvale.

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It was a 12 hour journey from Mumbai. The bus was a piece of Luxury. We were comfortable after sometime and extremely excited, made some videos of us together in the bus going on a second honeymoon, discussing each other’s experiences as well as expectations. We were provided black polythene in case we like to throw out due to the mountainous road ahead.

We reached around 8 am in the morning at Panjim, Goa. Panjim is the capital city of the Goa State. This part comes under north Goa. It has all facilities there for tourists like us. We choose a place in the center of the city. The reason is ridiculous but simple. We wanted to be among good food joints of the city as we are vegetarians and in Goa it’s difficult to find good vegetarian food near beaches. The non-veg is awesome according to people there.

I mean who does not prefer a hotel near or in the beautiful beaches of Goa and live in the concrete jungle, it was us… we the foodies. Myself and my wife both love Indian food. In fact you can say we live for food not we eat to live. We can sacrifice anything except food. See food came in this and I got emotional and wrote so many lines.

Anyway we had couple bath and we started our day with 2 beaches for the day. One was Donna Paula and the other a beach in South Goa called Kolva. We rented a scooter which is easily available and searched for a good vegetarian joint and found a nice place.

The place was filled with people at 11 am (opening time) and had a great ambiance with exceptional food. We loved it and it was in our itinerary every late morning for the next 4 days. We went to Donna Paula beach and fell in love with the sea. It was a long time for us to be so close to the sea, first time together. The beaches are rocky here and filled with small, colorful shops. Did some shopping and went ahead for clicks. The place had a bad history according to locals. People say that an English Lady committed suicide in the rocks after she failed in love.

We had our lunch there in the sea view hotel but I started my day with beer at 1:30 pm. Took on the streets and went for Kolva Beach. This was a 50 km trip one way and had great landscapes in between. In fact this trip from North Goa to South Goa gave us a lot about Goa and its culture. You will find lots of tourists from all over the world in Goa and due to this the place is more of a cosmopolitan state. My better half was sitting close to me tightly on the back seat and we thought we were in love again. Went on and on and never looked back. Goa is considered to be one of the safest places in India. The roads were good and people were cooperative and helpful for directions. We reached Kolva Beach and were awestruck with the beautiful pristine beach, white sands and peaceful ambiance  We were not in a mood to take a splash as it was four in the evening but did go in to sea for some fun. While returning back I noticed Goa is clean, green and has very low population. There were beautiful colorful homes but no people in the streets. We were lost at some point of time but were unable to find a single person for directions at few places. Somehow we reached our hotel by seven and crashed after some physical exercises.

Second day again we started our day late with good brunch and headed for Kalanghute and Baga beach while covering a Goan fort, old Goa churches and some small beaches. Kalanghute was ok. Spotted a quiet place in at the outskirts of the beach, kept our clothes aside and had lots of masti in the sea. Baga beach was our pick of the beaches as it had great food, beautiful beach with one side a mountain and the other side a sea. In between there is a small river flowing in to the sea. We had sun bath, beer and massage for hours as a result, didn’t wanted to get back to our hotel. Left the place after sunset, completely wet. In the mean time the rain gods went crazy and showered their blessings on us which was an added advantage when you are with your partner. Somehow the mood becomes romantic.

The next day we were clear, we wanted to go to Baga only while covering Vagator and after lunch we reached Baga beach, had a great day there for the rest of the day. We were lost in each others arms and pretty much in love. It was rainy evening and we were few meters inside the sea, remembered our love timelines, ups n downs, and special events. Later got emotional, had a nice evening at a local pub and cafe with rains setting the mood and at last took the best decision of our lives.

We wanted to be parents !!

That night was one of the best night of our lives and most importantly be remembered for various reasons which cannot be written here.

More importantly, we had a great second honeymoon and an awesome trip to be remembered for the rest of our lives. In the bus while returning back we got emotional to each other and talked about how we have made it this far, from childhood friendship to this married life. Things have definitely changed which she always complains after marriage but one thing is sure we are still mad about each other.

Now we want to take our son there as soon as he is ready to explore the nature’s one of the best gift to mankind… the sea and its beautiful beaches…

Taj Mahal, Agra

We started our journey from Delhi in a local train which was overflowing with all kinds of people live in India. Luckily my wife got a seat and sometime later I had the opportunity to share the seat with 4 other people in a seating capacity of three. It was already 11 am when we left Delhi. I never knew that a local train would take 4 hours to cover a distance of 200 kms . It stopped at all small towns and villages with a signification change in our compartment at every station with different kind of people with varied cultures. We were getting nervous as it was a special day for me and my wife and we wanted to be in Taj Mahal before the end of the day. The time of gate closing for Taj was 5 pm. We reached Agra around 3 pm. By the time we checked in at the hotel it was already quarter to four. Got ready as soon as possible and left for Taj Mahal in an Auto Rickshaw which was scaringly fast. We reached at the gate at quarter to five and saw there was a long line of foreign and local tourist. We were unsure of getting the entry but we got it at 5 pm. It was a indeed a miracle and we were in, we were brimming with abundant energy and happiness.

It was finally time to see Taj Mahal with my beloved wife on a special day, our 1st wedding anniversary. It was a dream for both of us since we started dating each other to be at Taj Mahal on our 1st anniversary.

It was a day of celebration and 90 % of our time we did was travel. Finally we entered from the main gate and we were just awwed with the grandness of the monument.

Taj Mahal was built by the Mughal king Shah Jahan in 1631 in memory of his second wife, Mumtaz Mahal on the bank of river Yamuna on the other side of Great Red Fort of Agra.

She died after giving birth to their 14th child while accompanying her husband in Burhanpur in a campaign to crush rebels. The Emperor was so shocked by the death of his beloved wife that all his hair and beard were said to have grown white in few months that followed.

Mumtaj wanted Shah Jahan to fulfill her four wishes

  • To build a monument that stands out of the world.
  • To marry again.
  • To be kind to their children
  • To visit the tomb on her death anniversary.

Shah Jahan completed the first and second promises. Taj Mahal Construction began in 1631 and completed in 22 years. Twenty thousand people were put for work on Taj mahal. The material was brought in from all over India and central Asia and it took a fleet of 1000 elephants to transport it to the agra site. It was designed by the Iranian architect Ustad Isa and there is a myth that his right hand was chopped off after the construction. Shah Jahan was later kept captive by his son in Red fort from where Taj Mahal was visible.

Well history had its positives and negatives but we definitely had a great time sitting at the premises of Taj Mahal and watching the beauty and grandness of Taj. It’s a great place to feel love as love is in the air. Spent nearly 2 hours there and fell in love all over again. We ended the day with a quiet dinner at one of the city diners. It was an awesome experience which we have not forgotten till today and longing for a visit again soon.

There are 2 more major attractions in Agra i.e. Minitaj and Red Fort which should be a must in the literary for everybody who visits Agra.

Red Fort Agra
Mini Taj

Wife !!!

She wakes up early in morning, makes home, bed, herself and everything else tidy. She makes sure the breakfast is proper and according to the man of the house. After all this is done, she wakes up the man and the kid of the house.

The kid is okay now after the milk and the man is also comfortable with the tea or coffee along with the newspaper. She is still busy instructing the maids about all the household chores while getting ready her-self and planning for the day.

She makes little one ready for school and the man for office. She works all through the day at her office and picks up the little one in the evening and still strong she goes on and on.

She is Wife!!!

I adore her,

  • When she says with a smile “How was your day?” after a long day of my office, meanwhile she has handled all day the small little kid, her office and home.
  • After all this she has gone through, she offers a cup of tea or coffee with some snacks and talks about the day.
  • She plans for the rest of the evening while the man watches TV, works at home and play with the naughty one.
  • She makes sure that the naughty one and the man eats proper food with sufficient nutrition and takes care of them all the time.
  • She always wants to talk about the day and when the man say’s “I am too tired” she takes care of him.
  • She fulfills the desires of the man physically and emotionally, makes everything tidy again and sleeps.
  • Wakes up again the day is same again.

She is superhuman, she is gorgeous, she is a workaholic, she is a social animal, and she makes my day, my life every day, every moment.

I love my wife for everything she has given me all my life till today and she is still hungry and not finished. I guess I am lucky to have such wife who is a perfect mix of beauty with brains. She makes up my world and a very good one as well.

I wonder sometimes why a man does not understand their wife, why they complain of their wives every time, why they does not take care of them.  I have no answers to all these questions and advise people to take of their wives as there is a great saying “When wife is happy, everything is perfect. When she is not, everything is F-Up”.

Tips to make the better half happy ?

  • Gift her a box of chocolates, 99 % wives loves chocolates and forgets everything after getting them, specially from husbands,
  • Tell her you love her all the time, especially when she is upset. This is required to reassure her that you are still in love with her after so many years of marriage.
  • Send her flowers when you are not in home. She will think that even u are out of house you are still thinking about her.
  • Take her out on a date and talk about the old days when you got attracted to each other. In short your good old days.
  • Gift her small gifts. This will surely make her happy and you don’t have to spend on expensive gifts at one go.
  • Never shout on her. She will remember this every time she fights with you afterwards and the fight gets escalated further.
  • Never ever talk negatively on her relatives. She will make sure that you are never able to talk about the same again and also this will come up on almost every fight afterwards followed by heavy tear-fall.
  • Never forget important dates, specially her birthday and anniversary or she will make sure that you never forget these all important events in your whole life. There is no harm if you forget your own birthday.
  • Always try to find out work in home and do it before she does it and curse you of lethargy, reading newspapers and watching TV. She hates it when you overlook work visible in the house and indulge on these petty things.
  • Make sure you complement her on every new thing which she does to herself. Even a small thing like changing her earrings. Also complements like “you are looking good” or “your hair feels so soft” e.t.c.
  • Cook for her, even though you are a pathetic cook and she will love you like anything and it may happen that you get good food in the house atleast for a week.
  • At times take her for a Ice-cream date and long drive. She loves going to long drives only with you and talk about stuffs.
  • Don’t forget your towels and other clothes here and there. Remember there are proper places for these kinds of items.
  • Never argue with her. Say you are right. I was so wrong about this and that. Say sorry immediately. Remember you don’t have ego in you. You have lost it when you got married.
  • Always plan and go. Don’t go and plan. She hates it when she is on to something without a plan.
  • Never comment on home made food. She does not like it at all. Always complement her on her cooking skills. She will feel great.
  • Develop a good listening skill. It helps.

Any more suggestion guys ? ?

Husband – Wife Relationship ???

The most complicated relationships of all, Husband-Wife relationship. Till today nobody has able to solve the mystery of this typical yet beautiful relationship. I was told by people, when I was getting married, you will see dear that after 1 year of your marriage, you will feel that whatever you wanted in your life is not there. It does not even exist. Life will become monotonous and dull. Love will be history and you will be drowned in the day-to-day activities of life. You will be amazed and horrified to see the power of “The Female” in your life.

After I got married and successfully completed two and half years, still I listen from people those same old stories. I wonder how people make such comments and laugh. I laugh at them and say guys, I am the one who not only loves his wife, even after 2.5 years of marriage, but at the same time beautifully carrying out the responsibilities of a husband. I dont say I do everything perfectly but at least I give it a try and makes this relationship as beautiful as possible.

Life is very complicated and we “so called civilized people” make this life and specially this relationship complicated. Simplicity is the best policy. It gives you positive results. We forget life is much more than just maintaining this relationship. There are so many things to do together.

The funda is very simple, try to understand your spouse and act accordingly. I have been in love for 10 years with my childhood girlfriend before I got married to her. I have tried and tested some relationship formulas, which I had prepared, and was successfull most of the time.

Maintaining good and healthy relationship requires 2 things, Commitment and an element of surprise. If you have both that you are master of any relationship. You need to mix few elements here and there and you will see that things are falling in place. Your spouse is happy with you, less complaints and better living conditions at home (there is no place for perfect relationship as it does not exist).

I have tried to understand my better half all my life and still I am learning new things about her everyday. Sometimes I get negative results, even if my formula was successful last time. Actually there is not fixed formula for this. You need to think out of the box every time mixing the elements here and there. You need to remember, try doing things differently every time, all the time. This makes life beautiful and relationships better and stronger. You will see the difference yourself and will not regret some extra time being spent on thinking and doing things for your spouse.

The relationship problems between husband and wife can be seen in the light of the following relationship complications:

  • Too many expectations – Having too many unreasonable expectations from your spouse. Nobody is perfect, so why expect your life partner to be so. You should think highly of your spouse but they are human with their own tendencies to make a mistake. Try to avoid keeping your expectations too high.
  • Good and Regular Physical Relationship : One should exercise regular sexual encounters with spouse and be open about it. If this is not exercised, there is bound to be problems.
  • Conflicts – Do not jump into conclusions about the relationship every time you have a conflict. There are ways to resolve it, and the best of which is allowing time to pass.
  • Anger : Never let anger to take over in the relationship. Start counting numbers when u r in anger.
  • No compromise – Not willing to compromise is one of the most prominent causes of conflicts between husband and wife.
  • Male ego – At times, it is the man’s ego that gets the better of even considerations of a happy married life. It affects the relationship in a major way. The wife’s self esteem becomes very low when the male ego comes in between. The distance men can create by this often turns out to be irresolvable.
  • Time spent together – This is one of the critical factors in the success of a husband-wife relationship. You need to balance between the time spent with your partner, and the time you need to spend alone. If your partner enjoys more time with you, make sure you give him or her that. There should be a mutual agreement on this important issue.

Any more suggestions guys ? ? ?