Malshej Ghat : Weekend Trip

Malshej Ghat is located 117 km from Navi Mumbai. Its in-between Kalyan-Ahmednagar Road. It is a popular picnic spot during monsoon, frequented by weekend warriors of Mumbai.

Most people visit this place to enjoy waterfalls and scenic mountain ranges. It lies in Western Ghat ranges.
In some places the waterfall makes a landfall on the road, making it a thrilling drive for adventure lovers.
Best time to visit: Monsoon (June to Sep)
We started from Kharghar, Navi Mumbai and took ambernath, badlapur, murbad route which was ok with few bad patches in between. It took us almost 3 hours to reach at the peak point
Best option is to start early and cross ambernath and badlapur before 9 am to avoid hassles of traffic
Route is scenic and roads are good after you cross Murbad
Take eatables along as Malshej ghat does not have any good restaurant, only raodside bhajji pakoda and vada pav stalls are available. It’s just a ghat with stunning views.
There are number of waterfall after the ghat starts. Don’t spend too much time there as the main view is at the peak point where waterfall fall straight in middle of the road. This scene is unique and there is no place on Earth where this kind of setting is there

You can take bath in the middle of the road, wash your car as well. People were standing in middle of road for group bath.

Experience is awesome. It tends to get cold here during monsoon so spare clothes can be a good idea as u will feel like getting drenched with numerous waterfall options.

Word of advice to family travelers: Crowd gets bad to worse in peak season, so be cautious and stop at places wisely. Don’t go to internal roads on foot as it can be risky. Stay near to your cars and enjoy if  you are travelling with family. 

After crossing the malshej peak point there is a police check always, be careful as they check documents and see if you are drunk.

The road is filled with clouds which is again an awesome experience.

There is a MTDC resort after malshej peak poing and its literally in between clouds during monsoons.

Trip to Varandha Ghat

There is a saying ” When there is a will, there is a way”

 We completely follow this wherever we go and we make plans which generally are not standard trips as per people around us are concerned.

Me and my better half love to explore and every year on monsoons we go on and explore western Ghats again. Since we have explored most of the places, this time we zeroed on “ Varandha Ghat”.

We took the only road which connects Mahad and Pune from Mahad side. This road goes parallelly with Panchgani-Mahabaleshwar road.

We started from Navi Mumbai early and took Khopoli road to reach Mahad. The roads are all broken and pathetic. It took us more than 4 hours to reach Mahad which is just 144 kms from Navi Mumbai. It’s getting repaired and getting concrete now so people will have better experience in 2019 onwards.

Its better if valley is entered from Pune side. Atleast the roads are good but the best views are in Mahad side which no one should miss.

We reached Mahad around 2 pm, had lunch in Mahad and started our Varandha ghat journey. There is a left turn which is not so visible after crossing Mahad in NH66. Google maps are recommended here.

Initial journey is through small 2 lane road which crosses many villages but when you start ascending in to mountains, adventure starts.

In monsoon season the valley is full of waterfalls. I mean literally there are waterfalls in each and every turn of the road. Feeling is amazing and you are suddenly in green heaven.

We crossed Kal river at the start of the road and it went with us for quite some time. River went to different direction after some distance and we started climbing Ghat section. At one point the ascend is quite steep and I realized I have a 1200 cc small car and is very good for this type of climb.

 Just look at the pictures below and you will understand the beauty this place possess. We started clicking pictures as if we will not see this kind of beauty again.

There is a spot at the top (Centre of Mahad-Pune road) where there are options of refreshments (Chai, Pakode and other eatables). The rates are normal and service is great. Usually crowdy on weekends but the owners here manages it very well.  This place is completely foggy in monsoon season. Headlight and fog light are must at this stretch.

After we crossed this point, we continued getting waterfalls each with unique characteristics and sizes. Moreover Nira-Deoghar dam starts and it went along with road for a long-long time. When we thought the beauty ends at top and we started hurrying for destination but we were in for a huge surprise when we saw the dam alongside road. The dam has both mountain and water views.

 Its Unbelievable sight with amazing landscapes.

 There is endpoint which is called BHOR after which you can take right and go Panchgani or else continue straight for Satara/Pune.

 This place is hidden gem of western Ghats and usually less crowded. Road conditions are just about ok but you cannot drive fast due to single road and sharp turns.

 Take ample time for photography and you will not regret it !!

Jabalpur : Land of Dhuadhar and Marble Rocks

Jabalpur is the 3rd largest city in Madhya Pradesh. It has beautiful dhuadhar waterfall (Believe me the name says it all) and Bhedaghat.

The beautiful Dhuandhar Falls is located at Bhedaghat 30 km away from Jabalpur.
‘Dhuan’ means smoke. Mist emanating by water falling on hard rock has visuals of smoke, hence it is called Dhuandhar or Smoke Cascade.
Dhuandhar falls is located on the Narmada river.
Marble Rocks, located just a km away from the waterfalls is a must visit. Boating is an amazing experience, especially by the moonlight. Boating facilities are available from November to May. Boating in Narmada is not allowed during monsoon season.
There is a fixed rate by MP Tourism for these boats. They will take INR 700-900 based on the distance they cover. never fall in to trap of going more distance and paying extra buck. People always try to extract maximum money.
Jabalpur is a 3rd tier city with restaurants, malls and multiplexes. You can have everything which a modern man requires.
How to Reach Jabalpur by Air

Jabalpur Dumna Airport, located around 20 km away from the main city centre, connects the city with rest of the country by air.

How to Reach Jabalpur by Road

Jabalpur is connected to major Indian cities like Nagpur, Indore, Bhopal, Pune, Aurangabad, Kanha and Bandhavgarh by regular interstate bus service.

How to Reach Jabalpur by Rail

Jabalpur Railway Station lies on Mumbai-Howrah-via Allahabad main line. Served by the Western Central Railways, Jabalpur Railway Station is an important rail junction of the state as it connects Jabalpur to major Indian cities like Delhi, Nagpur, Kolkata, Mumbai, Hyderabad, Patna, Bhopal and Lucknow.

Kerala : God’s Own Country

Recently we planned for Kerala vacations and believe me it was just superb!!

Kerala is often referred as God’s Own Country and it’s an apt title. Once you visit Kerala you will feel the tranquility, beauty and natural wonders in length and breadth of the state in the form of mountain ranges, wildlife, backwaters, monument, museums, beautifully carved temples, art galleries and lush green forests.
Located Southwest of India, Kerala is a perfect destination for tourists.

Our starting point was Munnar

A small town and a hill station, Munnar is located in the Southwest of Kerala. Tea plantations, waterfalls, and number of resorts make it a comfortable and beautiful place. National parks and wildlife are other major places you should not miss when you are here.

We started our journey to Munnar from our landed place and it took about 3 hours to reach. We were exhausted but the climate and the enchanting beauty of tea gardens just took us to some other level.

Suddenly we were energized by the god’s best creation!

By the time we got ready, we forgot how much we have traveled to get to this place and how tired we are!!
Some resorts were made just for couples as they were secluded and tranquil. You can not even hear a pin drop sound.

Just you and your partner!!!

It’s the best place to explore each other under the umbrella of nature. There will be nobody except you and you. Not even the waiters will come and disturb you (Lots of Sarcasm on this one). If you are hungry you will have to go and eat. Charges are high as compared to the quality of food. People don’t bother. In-fact nobody will bother you at all.

Good for people like us who are looking for solitude and want to explore wonders of nature.

Two days we had to explore Munnar and believe me we had very little time to explore the place.

Munnar Tea Garden
Munnar Tea Garden
Munnar Tea Garden
Munnar Tea Garden
Munnar
Munnar
Munnar Tea Garden
Munnar Tea Garden
Munnar Tea Garden
Munnar Tea Garden

Next stop was Alleppy (Allapuza) also famous for the backwaters.

The Backwaters of Kerala is another important tourist destination in the state. Its made up of the interconnected rivers, lakes and canals which merge into Arabian Sea.

You can hire a houseboat and be in water with beautiful surroundings for days. Whole houseboat is yours, you decide menu and enjoy royalty.

Most of the people who come here are honeymooners and couples and they love it here.

Marari Beach
Marari Beach
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Marari-Beach

Backwaters

Kerala Backwaters
Kerala Backwaters

Next It was Kovalam (light house beach) and this was the best place among all the places visited. Its setting is unique and I never saw it earlier. There is a dead end after which the walk lane starts. One side its sea and other side resorts. In fact I never saw this kind of setting ever in my life.

A beach town on the Arabian Sea in southern India, Kovalam features two most gorgeous beaches. The most popular and largest beach is Lighthouse Beach (crowded) and Samudra Beach (fewer people).

Kovalam Beach
Kovalam Beach
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Kovalam-Beach
Light House Beach
Light House Beach

People here know how to entertain couples but they have failed to understand average Indian traveler with family requirement. I found the resorts as very good with great option for non vegetarians.

Vegetarian guys you need to adjust a lot in Kerala as it seems people here eat only meat and nothing else.

I wish people here start loving animals as they love nature and start working on preserving animals.

One more thing. I guess the most important thing in Kerala. There is a ban in Liquor after some time in 2015 which makes me feel,

Thank god I visited earlier!!!

I think the place has its positives and negatives. Our moto should be to take positives and work towards happiness!!

I feel I had a perfect couple time with my better half!!

Sun Sand and Sea!!!

It was a perfect ending to our 10 day holiday!!

Waiting

Waiting is the worst possible thing that can happen to anyone. It takes a toll on your patience and can make your day miserable.
In my job it’s a normal thing. I m in sales n I wait for customers, trains, planes, taxi and the list goes on n on.
Right now I m waiting for an important customer while he is enjoying his lunch.
Anyway waiting is now a big part of my life.
Most of the people look at waiting as a negative thing.  I m also in sync with those people but being an optimistic person I always look for positivity in everything.

Waiting also allows you to catch up on important things which were pending and u had no time to finish those. 

You can always

increase your activity on social networking sites n also catch up with old friends. 

You can work on the presentation, reports, your resume to name a few. 

Waiting also gives me a piece of mind as I think about what am I doing in life and is it worth doing it. In fact most of my life important decisions were taken while I was waiting for some or the other things.

You know if anxiety is subtracted from waiting than you will have one of the best break from your routine n fast life. You will have sense of calmness in your behaviour. 

Well people can give lots of logic on waiting but my mantra of life is being cool n whatever I m doing n always look for positives in my life.
People always calls me Mr. Cool n I love this tag on me.

Signing off !!!

It seems my waiting got over as my customer has called me !!!

Teammate to Leader

An interesting read which I came across somewhere. Don’t know who wrote it but felt its worth sharing.

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What do you do if you’re suddenly put in charge of a team, a project, a division – or even a company?
Having been an exceptional team member in the past doesn’t mean you’ll automatically be a great captain – in fact, what made you a star performer could actually get in your way. If your individual success hinged on doing superior work, for instance, you may need to overcome a pitfall familiar to straight-A students who end up doing all the work themselves when participating in group projects.

Suddenly accountable for people you can’t control, for work you can’t do on your own and maybe even for the output of people you’ve never met, you might panic. Many new leaders do. But realizing that not even the world’s most spectacular track star can beat the time of a just-average relay team may help you realize that the power of a team can outstrip your own performance, even if it’s world class.

That’s a good starting point for getting out of your own way. Consider some of the following advice, as well.

1. Visualize “winning.” To do this, you’ll need to project all the way to the finish line. Create powerful images in your mind, and then express these objectives in ways everyone will remember – from the boardroom to the shop. It’s important to turn rudimentary wishes into specific goals; to go from earning a profit to earning $1 per share, to go from having happy customers to having a net promoter score of over 75, to go from being socially responsible to setting up 20 scholarships for employees’ kids.
Establishing quantifiable measures and time-frames turns wishes into goals. Goals then transform capable individuals into powerful teams. Unified teams lead to world-class performance. And articulating, measuring and celebrating meaningful goals means attracting highly qualified employees.

2. Build a great team. If you hire talented people and put their interests ahead of your own, good things will happen. Your own commitment to serving your team will spur them to become stewards for clients, vendors, shareholders, other employees – and anyone else who has a stake in achieving shared goals. Once the right team is on the field, your own tasks are simply to make sure they have the resources they need and to clear any obstacles out of their way.

3. Don’t play the popularity game. You may be tempted to be popular, and to that end, you might use the proverbial carrot or another type of enticement to garner support. But don’t give outsized bonuses or spackle over real issues with any sort of “free lunch.” If you build fake esprit de corps by giving stuff away, it means you’re failing as a leader, because in actuality, there are no free lunches. Everything comes at a cost. And as leader, you’re accountable for the yet-to-be-reckoned expense of keeping people in line with bribes. You’ll find that not only do their appetites return, but you’ll eventually need to pay for the “food.”

4. Do play the long game. On a related note, only yield to pressures to fix things in the short run if you’re sure your solutions won’t have negative ramifications in the long run. If you keep an eye on the full array of short-, medium- and long-term consequences, not only will your team come to trust you – even though they won’t always agree with you – but so will the market.

5. Be ready to pivot. New problems will flow from every decision you make, so pick solutions that generate a next set of problems suited to your management abilities. You’re not solving a puzzle where finding the perfect piece will complete the picture; you’re dealing in ever-changing probabilities. So adapt, adjust, iterate until you find a good-enough course of action. Then, carry out your plan as if your life depended on it – it’s more reasonable to strive for perfection in execution than in decision-making.

6. Don’t pass the buck. In private enterprise, power can shift from manufacturer to distributor to retailer to customer, and back again. It all depends on an ever-changing balance between supply and demand. In government, politicians calculate how taking from one generation to give to another may keep them in office – until the wheels of society fall off. As a business leader, you’re a steward, not a politician, so resist the temptation to simply shift burdens. Success rooted in inequity spawns instability and strife, whereas applying fairness, durability and equity will pay dividends over time.

7. Listen to your team. Listening is an important part of your job, so be sure to ask for input. But also remember that the most popular ideas are often the least feasible, so don’t base your decisions on popular opinion or politics alone. Martin Luther King, Jr. said it best: “A genuine leader is not a searcher for consensus but a molder of consensus.” Build the personal capital that allows you to make tough, unpopular calls – then make them. Explain your reasoning to your team, and if you’ve listened well to them, they’ll listen to you when you make the tough calls.

8. Pass the baton. If you insist on making every single decision, you’ll have a less-innovative, less-energized and less-committed team. So decentralize decision-making where possible; empower those closest to the facts and then make them accountable.

9. Know that sometimes, there actually is an “I” in team. People are naturally self-interested. Don’t be surprised by this, and don’t punish them for it. Instead, reward those who have enlightened self-interest – who take into account the long view, who consider the concerns of the community in which they’ve chosen to live and who work for the many non-financial interests other people have. Expecting others simply to deny self-interest altogether for an objective you’ve set will merely unleash instability – and can even destroy your organization.

10.Acknowledge your bloopers. Embracing feedback, particularly the negative kind, is one key to recognizing mistakes. Be humble, vulnerable and willing to learn. If you are, your whole team will learn from its mistakes, too.
Leadership is not about being the best producer, or about being liked, or about making speeches – it is, at its very core, about getting the best all-things-considered results. Incorporating the above tweaks into your already well-established pattern of great individual performance will put you on your way to transforming yourself from manager to leader.

As management-consulting pioneer Peter Drucker noted, “Management is doing things right. Leadership is doing the right things.” In my experience, doing the right things the right way is the mark of a great leader.

 

Some Funny Moments

Life gives you an opportunity to live life king size. We come across lots of funny things in life where we enjoy the moment. I travel a lot for my job and make sure that I enjoy small moments which comes during my travel.

Came across these pics which I couldn’t resist and sharing with you all.

Do make some comments and share similar pics,so that we can enjoy the moment and create much needed humor in our lives.

Travel for Living

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When I look out of a window from my hotel room where I stay when I travel for office work, I see completely different environment filled with strangers. People so different yet so familiar. I have a tendency to make good relations with hotel waiters, car drivers, guards and other people.

People say I am very good in my people handling skills. I always try to make them happy by asking them about their personal lives and show respect. They love to talk about themselves and you understand how tough life is for some people in this world. Most important they will go to that extra mile just for you and believe me it feels simply awesome.  

In turn I get respect and personal touch which keeps me motivated and makes me feel I m not far from home.

I love to travel on business as this means u meet lots of people, experience various cultures, understand uniqueness among similarities and gain knowledge. Most importantly there is no worry on food and stay expenses.

Travel means for me is to get out of routine life

  • You have lots of “me” time which means you can eat what you want, and do anything like watching movies, play games, talk to friends, surf sports channel. Actually the list is quite long which u are unable to do it at home due to several obvious reasons.
  • You introspect on your life and job. You try to think what’s ur expectations from these and how life is treating you?
  • How r u rating urself against your set goals etc etc.
  • You get to see new places and enjoy nature. I always make sure to take a new route and experience new things.

Trust me; I have been through some of the craziest things ever in my life. I guess most of the life’s best experiences are felt while traveling.

  • Once I was traveling in a car in a hilly place and lighting struck near to us in a tree. We went nuts for sometime and started laughing. It was fear for a moment than joy of being alive. 
  • A guy who told me he has lost his wallet and has no money. I gave him INR 500 to reach home as I felt pity for him. He promised to return money when he gets home. I saw a glow in his face when he got money but it seems it was all vain as he never showed up. I feel pity on myself now and lost trust. I feel the deserving people will not get the money now from me.
  • Had minor accident thrice in a single day. Three large dents in a third party car. Thankfuly.
  • Waited five exhuciating hours to meet a customer. Just imagine what I had been through. F&%$^&%^ that customer.
  • Received 5 orders on a single day. It seems like a dream and I was above the sky after this.
  • Woke up at 6 am traveled to a destination, worked all day, reached hotel. Was awake till 3 am to catch a train. After this ordeal slept like there is no morning. Almost missed my destination station back.
  • Saw a 3 foot lizard in the middle of nowhere and got scared as I was alone and had nowhere else to go but to look and wait.

I guess there are numerous other events like those which I experienced when I traveled for work.

These experiences seem never ending and I look forward to more of it. Most important I love being in sales.

I think I love my job for the time being as change is constant.

Letter to the One I Love

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Dear Charu,

I love you and I really mean it from the bottom of my heart. It’s awesome to be with the perfect someone, who is your companion at the same time your “Best Friend”. I have spent half of my life being with you and want to complete it together. You are my beginning as well as end.

It all started when we were teens, we had a spark between us. It slowly and steadily went on to become a bond which is immeasurable and immortal now. I thank god with each passing day for this life and pray him for the same companion in my next life and lives after that. I cannot imagine my life without you. It only grows stronger and mature with each passing day.

Life feels complete being with you. It’s just that I miss you more and realize your true worth in my life, when I am away from you. You are my bright light on a dark and scary path as somebody quoted somewhere “You are my eternal sunshine”.  It fits perfectly here and feels its written for me only. I guess all the lovers think like me.

I regret the days when I have hurt you and made you cry. It seems foolish now as I have put my ego in between our relationship. I promise I will take care of you and will never make you cry. Even if I make you cry ever, I will quickly make it up to you. I will start finding new ways to love you and make you happy.

You are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen in my life. Your eyes tell me everything about your mood in a blink of a second but damn they are so sexy. Your lips are juicy and expressive. They express your inner feelings in a way which can only be understood by none other than me. Your angelic face backed by your brown hair adds up to your beauty and it gives me immense happiness and a sense of proud that I am your companion and I got the opportunity to spend the rest of my life with you.

Yours Love,

Prash

Weekend Gateway Puri

It was a long time since we had a family trip. I was busy in my job, trying to satisfy my bosses. I had no time to think about anything. My day goes with Just official work (Day n Night) which is normally followed by family time which I spent with my little angel. By night we used to get so tired that we don’t even talk to each other properly and try to sleep as early as possible to face the next day

So this routine was going on and on and there was no escape but

Suddenly an offer came from my colleagues to visit a place in the eastern part of India which is known as Puri. It’s a small tourist place in Odisha, India but its certainly not advisable to people to visit in summers. It’s very humid and its high temperature makes it more difficult to discover the place. Although a very beautiful shorelines which can be awesome when you visit from Oct to March.

We started at evening on Thursday night somehow. Courtesy our Indian Railways our train got late and we reached our destination five hours late. Missed chance to see Konark temple as my colleagues started long before we reached Puri. We reached took brunch and rested after which we just visited Jagannath temple.

Jagannath Temple

JagannathTemple is one of the most renowned as well as the biggest temples of Orissa. Established in the 12th century, the temple is dedicated to Lord Jagannath (Lord Krishna), Lord of the Universe. The credit for laying the foundation of the Jagannath temple of Puri goes to Raja Ananta Varman Chodaganga Dev.

There is an interesting legend associated with the Jagannatha temple of Puri. It is said that King Indradyumna, the ruler of the territory, saw Lord Jagannath in his dreams and following the Lord’s wishes, as told to him in his dreams, he got the JagannathPuriTemple constructed. The pillars that provide support to the temple are adorned with pictures depicting the life of Lord Krishna.

It was chaos in temple and it seemed everybody just wants money in the name of god which I despise most.

Anyway it was a beautiful feeling to meet the almighty in his one unique and beautiful form. It was peaceful and at the end of all the chaos it was worth visiting.

We left for beach and we were in for surprise. There we so many things to do. There were eateries, children games, camel ride, shopping for almost everything ranging from diamonds and pearls to balloons and pins at much cheaper cost than original.

We enjoyed sea in one of the most ferocious form and loved it. My two year old son experiencing sea for the first time and he was terrified by the sound and sight of it. He was awestruck and clung to me the whole time.

There was high tide next morning and we played for around two hours with the waves resulted in extreme exhaustion. At the end we were outplayed by the mighty sea and slept like anything after bath and breakfast.

We stayed at night in Puri and left early morning to Chilka Lake for boating and to watch dolphins.

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Chilka Lake is Asia’s largest brackish water lagoon with water spread ranging from 1165 sq km m the rainy season to 906 sq km in the dry season is nestled in the heart of the coastal Odisha (Orissa). Chilika is recognized as one of the most important wetlands in the world because it is home to a phenomenal variety of birds with over 160 species.

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We saw lots of dolphins around our boat. The lake looked like sea and the waves were equally threatening. It seemed the lake is several meters deep until I saw a fisherman standing in the sea. We were amazed. The lake was just 5-6 feet deep in the pics which I took. Can you believe it? I couldn’t until I saw with my eyes.

At the end of trip we thought the timing was wrong as in May its very hot and humid the day and much more cool at night.

One thing which surprisingly came out from this trip was that we had a great time being together and talk about things which we generally don’t talk when in home and around. Hold each other’s hand and walk along without thinking about our daily routine jobs. I feel after a long time we looked in to each other’s eyes and expressed our love for each other. Our little 2 year old was surprisingly in a very good mood and left us in to each other’s company without creating havoc which he generally does. We spent lot of time together and that was the most important thing on this trip.

My advice to people “Please take a break from your routine and go to any place you like. It does not matter where. The most important thing is that you should be together and spend quality time”   100_3131

Split Personality of a Man

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We have heard a lot about split personality but every one of us live in various worlds and adjust ourselves in the same. We wander around between these worlds and try to make balance all the time.

In short we all get fucked up while doing above.

Here are some phases of my life where I feel I am not who I pretend to be.

I remember when we were kids we behaved in certain manner set by our parents and society. I remember mom and dad telling me about good bad and ugly things and follow their instructions on everything. We knew what is expected by people around us for us. We were good kids. Our parents tried everything to inculcate good habits in us.

Everybody grows up. We all did and started looking for a certain direction in life. Teenage life gave lot of meaning to life. U start questions on the set social standards. U question ur parents and sometimes argue with them. Try out various things especially negative ones. U chase girls, have affairs, bunk classes, play all day, sleep, watch TV all day, make fun of people around u, ridicule teachers, make lifelong friends and experience whatever ur mind can think of. This is a great life and u have a completely different personality which is not made up and is completely natural.

But this life is still restricted in certain manner as u are still dependent and live with ur parents.

We grown further and went to college. Came out of our parents control, became independent and Make exceptionally good friends. This is a place we showed our true colors to the world, studied, behaved exactly the way we thought and did everything we wanted. Make girlfriends and get serious ultimately in this phase.

Wait !!! Getting Serious ????

This is a biggest turn around in everybody’s life. When u do such mistake u let ur life being controlled by somebody else. Ur personality gets altered. U start behaving in some manner which is not you at all. Although u enjoy ur love life like anything and enjoy this change.

When you get engaged and later married u start behaving as if u got the whole world. U start earning, become independent, get the love of ur life and start a family.

In this phase you are not what you are. You become responsible which you are not, dedicated to your family well being, your morals changes, you look people differently (Only guys can relate to this), your priority in life changes and you have time for everybody except yourself.

I guess we all live in these phases which is funny and at the same time going to disastrous circumstances which we all know and understand but still go for it.

We love adventures. Isn’t it ? 

Love is in the Air

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I was wondering the other day what love means to us and how it transforms itself from one form to another after you tie the knot.

I mean love is entirely different when you are young and carefree but it has different meaning altogether when you become responsible after marriage and starts working

Me and my wife were poles apart when we were dating !!

She used to be the sophisticated  bold, happening, beautiful, topper in her stream and most sought after type

And I,

An average looking, shy, down to earth and just acceptable to society type

We were not matched for each other at all but who can deny fate. It has great powers to bring two unmatched individuals to become one.

I always believed that she was the one made for me but was sure she can never be mine. She was way out of my league but I guess I was in to the league of extraordinary gentleman.

As I wrote fate has its own way we fell in love, she liked my simplicity and I loved her attitude n beautiful heart.

We were madly in love when we dated in our student lives.

For us love meant,

  • Talking for hours
  • Sending hugs, kisses, flowers, cards sms, mails
  • Thinking all sorts of things about each other and smile
  • Explore each other
  • Looking in each other eyes and smile like there is nothing else in the world to make us happy.
  • Singing songs to each other
  • Letting the frustration out of each other after the hard day and become serene
  • Go on dates and explore  restaurants, park and picnic spots all over the city.

Now we are married and things changed. We have a small 2 year old kid in our family. She is taking care of all of us and I am the earning member with very little help at home.

Some time she says you are not the person I loved when we were younger.

I believe I am still the same but circumstances changed. We are both busy and always running around to make a living and taking care of our son.

I feel we are still in love but love has entirely new meanings in our lives.

I feel love is in the air when,

  • U ask me how was my day after a hard day and showers ur love and care on me.
  • Kiss me good night and smile before we sleep
  • Arrange everything for me and remind me always to take care of myself in unique new ways.
  • We always try to find our time and when we get it we  sleep in each other’s arms due to exhaustion
  • We hold hand in hand or lie next to each other and talk about our day
  • We try to find reasons to celebrate and talk about our college day adventures
  • We help each other with the daily chores and sometimes go extra mile to keep each other happy.
  • We play around with our 2 year old, dance on songs and laugh together on stupid things

I think there are more than enough reasons which makes me think I m deeply, madly, passionately and truly in love with you and wanna spend the rest of my life with u.

Each progressing day makes me think how much I love u and care for you but don’t get the time to express myself like I use to do when we were dating.

Life is just awesome with you !!!!

Me and My Better Half

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Husband wife relationship is unique but full of surprises. It has lots of sexy curves but unfortunately some goes downwards.

I am married for five years now and feel I have more or less understood my better half but She gives me shocks after shocks and I keep wondering what’s cooking and coming next.

You can share anything with your wife without even thinking except about other fairer sex.

If you do so by mistake, she will make sure you listen and get in back foot all your life in every arguments.

You can’t even talk about them or can’t see them. The result is always same.

You are screwed.

I have an habit of keeping things out of place like towel,news paper as per my convenience which I guess every normal man has.

First I got instructed for keeping things in place.

Later I was scolded

And Now

I am screwed every time I make this type of mistake.

I am sure after few years I will be hanged such stupid mistakes.

So I live in fear and make sure there is no outburst from my side, so that everything is cool and calm.

Expectations has no boundaries in married life.

Initially I was expected to keep things organised n tidy which I started doing to avoid arguments.

Later she wanted me to do few household chores along with keeping things organised and tidy.

When I started doing both

She said I don’t compliment her these days.

She gets irritated if she has left an empty bottle for me to fill and I don’t do it

Or

I have overlooked a stain somewhere which otherwise she will tell me or will do it on her own

I guess its her mood so I keep my mouth shut and do whatever she says.

Always expects some thing or the other which I don’t get it on my own for obvious reasons and need to be told.

I think its best for man to be calm and cool at these times  and do what she says. Its just few minutes of pain.

Result : Peace at home and mind for a much longer time than you expected. Hours of gain.

Anger has its own place in our lives with different meanings

She can display it anytime with reasons attributed to external factors but I am not allowed to show at all as it hurts her and she feels deep pain in her heart.

Anger towards the kid can be increased or decreased based on her mood or due to our arguments and when I tell her to stop

She keeps getting angry at all sorts of people who are distantly relative to us and when I say why do u care and spoiling your mood.

She says I don’t care for her.

I remember when we started dating I used give her enough time and whatever money I had for her shopping.

There was no home, no car and my expenses were minimal as I was living alone.

Now my salary tripled but major chunk goes to EMI’s and what’s left spent in for household expenses.

She says I am changed after marriage as I don’t have time and enough money for shopping.

I am told to stop her when she thinks of buying anything even slightly expensive by her own self.

I do that all the time

She says you don’t allow me to buy anything.

You have changed.

I am always on my toes to keep my behavior against social limits.

She does take care of our kid very well but expects me to handle few things without saying.
A difficult one as I don’t understand when her mood is off. When is she expecting me to do and what ?

I think the list goes on and doesn’t end till the end of our lives. The problems has no ending but we all try to go on with it.

Life is so simple but we all try to make it complicated and complex. We end up fighting with each other for petty issues

A Visit to Dentist

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I had feared dentist all my life. 32 years passed and I never had to visit a dentist in my life.

Sometime back I started feeling pain in my tooth. I never cared for it

One day I was eating nuts and something cracked.

I said WTF with lot of pain

It was my tooth which broke down after spending 32 long years with me. Few days I spent with lot of pain in my tooth and gum hoping that it would fade away soon and never dared to visit the dentist. My face was swollen from one side and I was unable to bear the pain.

After a night long harassment by my tooth which resulted in a spoiled night at a hotel, I told myself with a lot of courage to visit a dentist the very next day.

I told myself

lets try it,

May be it’s a minor thing and will go away as soon as the doctor work on it.

I somehow slogged on and on to survive that night and finally slept at around 2 am but to my bad luck I had to be awake at 5 to catch a train for 6 am. I spent 1.5 hours of journey again with pain in a train.

So after the “Pain in Train” I reached home, got fresh, took appointment after heavy lunch and went to meet a dentist in the afternoon hours.

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Fortunately when I reached doctor’s clinic it was empty as it was close to lunch time. I was the last patient before lunch. I went inside a lady doctor asked me to lie down in a special kind of bed and open my mouth.

This was it !!!

Now there was no turning back

She cleaned a little something which was stuck inside my teeth and to my horror it was broken little small irritating tooth which was resting peacefully between my tooth and gum

A small tooth caused this chaos and made me visit a dentist.

Had an X-Ray which showed my tooth 80 % broken with cavity setting in.

The result

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The tooth had be to taken off !!

I was fearless till that moment but the above result kicked my head like a superb Beckham take a shot and I went to a tizzy.

The stage was set for 6 pm the same day and I was asked to be there after few test in the afternoon. I ate my favorite snack, thinking it may happen that I wont be able to eat anything solid for few days at least.

I reached at 5:45 pm at the clinic. There were already few patients lined up for the same doctor. Doctor came at 6 and asked me to come inside. My heart beat went steep upwards with the delirious anticipations.

I was asked to lie down again in a different room now and it was a different doctor. Now it was a male doctor. Thought to myself, Thank god this time I wont be embarrassed thinking about bad smell or ugly teeth.

So the sequence of events started…

The Doctor asked me to open my mouth to have a look at the target. He reconfirmed for the extraction and I exclaimed YES. He asked me to relax and open my mouth wide open. Pulled in 2 injections right inside gums for local anesthesia.

I almost fainted as it was shocking and painful which came without warning.

They left me for few minutes and started talking to a lady patient who was lying in similar conditions few meters away from me.

She had three tooth extraction.

I smiled and reassured my soul. You have just one to take out.

One side of my face was numb now as anesthesia was taking over my senses slowly. Doctor came and asked

Are u ready ?

I just smiled back and held my breath in anticipation.

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He started with his state of the art equipment (one equipment was to pull out the tooth and other to hold my mouth open and few others like a pipe to suck the wetness inside mouth and a blower), trying to pull out the three roots of my single tooth. It was painful as hell. I almost cried with few drops of tears came out, when the doctor was trying to take out one part of my tooth. I shouted instantly

I am feeling pain

Doctor replied

Its not pain, its just psychological impact of you coming in to a dentist clinic

After feeling the same pain next time I asked doctor to use anesthesia again and doctor gave me two more injections.

Same place with no pain due to anesthesia.

After this doctor worked on my mouth with his assistant like a artist for half an hour. I felt no pain but could imagine the pain and felt helpless.

Doctor sew the place after the extraction and said

Its Done !!!

I felt like I am a winner in a race or has won a war.

Left the special bed and went to doctor’s chamber where he instructed me what TO DO & WHAT NOT,

My left side of the face was swollen and it felt as if one side is my face and other Hulk’s.

Thank god in the end my tooth was out and hopefully now there will be no more visit to the dentist for the rest of my life as I have decided to take very good care of them and pamper them so that they don’t punish me the way they did this time.

Weekend Gateway : Mahabalipuram

Sometimes when a travel plan just pops up in your mind and suddenly you find yourself on the road to this destination. Exactly this happened with me recently when I was on a business trip to Chennai (South India) for an exhibition. The exhibition was for five days and got finished on Saturday. We were all tired with my colleagues left early on Saturday to be with their family on Sunday.

I was unlucky as I was directly responsible for the exhibition and found myself working till 11 pm on Saturday with 2 other guys who had similar fate like me.

We reached hotel at around midnight from the trade centre, tired and hungry, but had lot of planning going on our mind as we kept Sunday for some small trip to a nearby beach. We started watching “Don’t Mess with Zohan” with beers in our hand and decided for Mahabalipuram in between. It was a sudden decision to visit Mahabalipuram which is also known as Mamallapuram, a small town in Kancheepuram district in Tamil Nadu state. It is around 60 km south from Chennai. It is an ancient historic town with lots of beautiful spots.

We started our travel in a rented taxi from Chennai early morning and it took only 45 minutes to reach the historic town of Mahabalipuram as the roads are pretty good. There was a bike racing going on which we realized when a fancy bikes zoop passed us in a flash. The 7th century port city is famous for its rock-cut shore temples. A lighthouse built on a hill from which you can see complete city over a group of temples below.

There are nine monolithic temples found in Mahabalipuram, the most important are Five Rathas known after the famous five Pandava brothers of the Mahabharata. These monuments are carved out a single rock and are huge. You can watch them with unbelievable look in to your eyes. Just see yourself in the below pics.

If you are looking for a place for a weekend fun and adventure along with some historical sights-seeing than this place is ideal for you. We were more than happy to be in this place as it was a great relief after a week of hard-work. With beer in our hands at the beachside we were feeling relaxed and peaceful. This prepared us for the tough week that was coming ahead and we were ready to fight again.

Mahabalipuram also has some great cafes that serve good sea food. A backpacker’s delight you can find economical accommodations with plenty of activities to do specially surfing in this part of India.

Few Indian Men !!

I chose this topic as I wanted the world to know that few Indian Men are one of the best breed on this earth. A rarity not available anywhere else but only in India. While most of the Indian men are making this country’s life miserable, some men like us are trying to clean the shit these people are spreading.

I am talking about one special kind of men who have specifications and features with special abilities. Few excerpts,

  • The men believe in living with parents and taking care of them from the day they start earning. They are very close to their parents and believe in living close to them physically as well. I went out of home when I started college and lived for 13 years outside but at the end came to a city very near to my folks abode and I am loving it.
  • We believe in traditions and try to adapt to the environments which has been created by our people from very old time. Now I have seen that people are trying to reject the negative things and adapting the positive ones from other cultures.
  • There are some people who still believe in arrange marriages and think that their parents will choose best for them. We are not that kind anymore. Love marriages are very common these days and people prefer a mix of modern and traditional partners who are bound by a  set by society and live in it, raise kids and live happily (although with lots of ups and downs)
  • Our kind still work hard (6 days a week) and take care of home, kids and wife as well. We can cook well, raise kids and do all kind of work required at home.
  • We party like there is no tomorrow but responsibly; never get out of control as there is always thinking at the back of our mind that we have responsibility in form of our kids and wife along with parents. This is the reason why we like to party at home where we can get drunk and have fun as much as we want.
  • We try to spend lots of time with our family. Close Friends are connected by phone and internet only but sometimes when we meet once in 6 months of year we try to make most of it. There is no place for fake friends but neighbors are always there for company. We love to mingle with people and make really good friends.
  • Our life has not heard a word “rest” as we are always busy, especially on Sunday’s taking care of home issues. We are autobots of Real Steel, programmed for everything, not interest in social life, me time. We are always busy for others around us.
  • We don’t believe in breakups, divorces and spoiling relations. We try to adjust ourselves and keep pushing for things to work out amongst us. In short we believe in making healthy relationships not spoiling them for pity issues out of indifference, egos and attitudes.
  • Our wife’s are really our better half. They take care of us and with us all the time, in every decision and most of all support and protect us. They dedicate their lives to their family but party hard when it comes to give a company to their husbands.
  • Our forefathers have made few mistakes such as considering women as the weaker gender, man: head of family, idiotic traditions binding us all e.t.c. We Indian men have a lot to clean up and we are trying every day to set things in order to make a better society.

I guess the list goes on and on but we Indian men are trying everything to sort things out and make our life simple and easy to live in the society. We expect our future generations to live in a free country where there are no boundaries and a place where there is no body telling what to do and what not to.

Let’s hope the day comes when all of us believe in these things and make life beautiful for ourselves as well for others.

Cheers

Prash

My first game of Golf

It seems like a dream come true. Golf was a complex game for me since childhood which had different types of sticks, funny names, beautiful balls and number of holes.

I never understood the game and thought why people waste 3-4 hours to complete the game and in between eat twice and sometimes thrice while walking around the bush. Although golf has lots of beautiful landscapes in some of the finest clubs I have ever seen, still the game was not attractive enough and never appealed to me.

I joined my current company in year 2006. I was entrusted with the responsibility of managing a product display booth during a company sponsored senior golf game in one of the best clubs in eastern India. It was pretty boring as there were only old guys coming to my stall after their game. It was a three day event and I was really bored with nothing to do. The only respites were beer sessions after the game. I had to wake up at 4 in cold December month to reach the club by 5. Waking up early is a curse for me. I just can’t get up early and I hated it. The year went by with the event got over and subsequently 3-4 years with no involvement in golf at all.

A mail came to me one fine day for a golf training sessions and I said yes to it as some of my close friends were also joining it. We reached the training area were given some info with some hands on training. This started a bit of enthu in me about the game.

After few months I was in the organizing committee for a golf event and on the second day when every team had teed off, we started our first game to be on safer side. This was accidental as we got the kit along with caddy from the club free of cost, courtesy our great golfer friend and colleague.

We started 4 ball game with 2 of us had no experience and the other 2 had few games experience. Started tee off with a ground shot made me nervous at start but thanks to my caddy who gave wonderful tips which in turn boosted my confidence and my shots started going in the right directions with good elevations. 1st two holes were like a dream with perfect scores and picked the game very well.

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Some blunders of the day,

1. One of our teammate had lost 8 balls in that game. He was always on the woods.
2. Lots of ground shots were played which later caused lots of back and shoulder pain.  I was unable to move properly for the next 3 days.
3. Twice a major hit to the other golfer missed. Thankfully, but we learned some safety aspects.
4. Sand bunkers were really irritating and caused 3-4 extra shots as we were unable to get the perfect elevation.
5. Score cards looked very funny as it had all kinds of numbers.
6. The 18 hole game was completed in record 6 hours and we all failed terribly in most of the areas.
7. Our caddies were also exhausted and irritated as we wanted to play 18 holes after 9 holes of failure.
8. Huge bunch of grass were unearthed that day with all our sticks going green. Thank god club people were all busy in arrangements of lunch.
9. Last few holes were toughest as we were exhausted and unable to walk.
10. We laughed like anything on each other and I guess this day will be remembered as the laughing day other than my first game.

Liking for the game started after completion of the game. I finally understood its not just about hitting balls. It’s about skills, strategy, patience, courage, competition and much more. Had few more decent games after that and started loving it. Now if you ask me about it, I will say Golf is one of the best game in the world and I love it.

Hoping for more to come !!!!

From Couple to a Family !!!

We make some life changing decisions in life, being parent is one of them. Took this decision after two years of our marriage. In these two years we did everything we wanted and went to some of the most beautiful places where a couple should go and spend time together. We were living a dream, a dream which we saw when we were kids.

We knew raising a kid was tough but didn’t know it will change our life forever. Anyway we took the decision and executed it soon. Life was really tough for me as a husband in the 9 months of my wife’s pregnancy.

Economy was in bad shape, prices were touching sky, Inflation was on a mission towards moon and life was really tough in every sense. My economical condition took a plunge downwards with medical bills and my wife’s unusual demands, had to work hard in day at office serving office boss and after office hours it was all home minister’s work. There was no “me” time, no travel, no street food, no late night movies, no getting drunk, no romance but certainly there were enough “YES” which made me feel good and be positive about life.

Somehow these nine months passed and the D Day came. We went to see doctor and she said the very next day we will try for a natural delivery. My better half and me went for a date, had our most liked food on that evening and spent a wonderful time together thinking about the consequences day after.

Next morning I took my wife to the hospital and admitted her. It was a tense time for both of us as my kid was adamant for not coming out and changed positions inside my wife’s tummy. I guess he was comfortable inside and didn’t wanted to come out and it was difficult for doctors to bring my kid out in a natural manner.

After trying for the whole day doctors gave in. They decided to operate after an hour and this was it. I got tensed and called up everybody from my family there. They took my wife to the operation theater and I got tensed again this time and believe me it was intense this time. There was a fear inside me about the probable events that can occur. I prayed to god and continuously wandered here and there near the OT.

After an hour doctor called me inside the OT. I was nervous and tensed, entered inside the door and got the news “Congratulations it’s a Boy” I asked immediately about my wife and found out she was okay. The happiness was beginning to come with a grin over my face . Nurse took me to one side of the OT where I met my baby for the first time.

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Everybody left me there to be with my baby. I messaged my parents waiting outside about the events occurred and went close to the little angel who had just entered in to our world.

I stood there in one corner and couldn’t kept my eyes away from him unable to sink in the happiness which swept all over me. Didn’t believed I was looking at my son. It was a miracle. I was smiling like anything and was continuously looking at my son. He woke up and made small movements with his eyes and hands and I fell in love with him.

Nurses took him to a room where everybody came, wished each other and later my wife came in with lots of pain due to operation. After some time she came in her senses and took our son in her hands and forgot everything. Just smiled and kept smiling. I stayed with her and my son for night and couldn’t slept as my son was getting awake and crying every 2 hours. That was the only time when I felt happy about my son getting up and crying at night.

It was 10-11-10. It was a day to remember and after two years I can still feel the excitement which I had during that time. Its an amazing feeling which only a parent can understand and nobody else. One of the best time of anybody’s life. I love being a father ever-since and loved my little one with all the love I have.

Educated but Uncivilised

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India is a great country and I am proud of being an Indian. I certainly don’t like the way some people behave here and throw themselves around. This article is dedicated to those idiots who I call “Educated but Uncivilized Creatures”. This breed is very dangerous for any country and can ruin the lives of other people around them. They think that they have rights to do anything they want and can buy anybody with their money, always talk bullshit and never ever consider anybody’s problems.

I consider myself an honest and sincere citizen. Always follow traffic rules even when the policemen is not in sight, always park my car at the appropriate place, follow lane rules, never litter, treat people with respect and talk in a decent manner to any body.

There are people who belong to this breed “educated but uncivilized” and can do the most nonsense of things, some ridiculous, funny characters and incidents mentioned below,

1)      A guy who was behind my car in heavy traffic and honking like nuts. I wonder why people do this kind of shit activity when they know people around them cannot move an inch.

2)      A good and decent looking family in a train eating in 1st class of train and littering quite generously and without regrets. These are the worst variety as they are useless and making their kids useless too.

3)      People who does not obey signals in traffic and are always responsible for jams. These are really stupid and dumb people as out of hurry they try to zoom past the traffic in wrong directions and usually end up with a big traffic jam around them. Still these people will curse people around them and honk for spaces. Policeman approaching them with fine usually end up saying sorry as the dad or uncle is a powerful man.

4)      When a person is talking loudly over phone. It seems the person wants to modulate his voice so much that it can reach the other person without phone. Stupid people can’t increase the volume in their mobile. If you are talking over mobile nearby than it’s hazardous as you wont be able to hear anything.

5)      A guy who will come straight to counter even if there is a big line and will fight with other people if they say anything. One of the most common types. Doesn’t understand everybody is on hurry but other people have planned and come in line with taking some time in hand on the other hand u r exactly opposite and creating ruckus.

6)      There is one variety of human beings who will spit and litter everywhere as if they own this country and still curse government for being lethargic and useless for not developing ways to improve cleanliness.

7)      People who does not even listen what you wanted to communicate. They will talk on and on and on. Never realize that whatever they are talking is bullshit and no body gives a damn to it unless and until they are dependent on you.

8)      There are some of these kinds that never put mobile phone on silent mode especially in movie theaters and hospitals. They will even talk to each other and over phone in between movie and even on their mobile phone loudly. I have some times encountered people who are watching a movie for the 2nd time and will tell about the movie beforehand in over excitement. Just imagine there can be this kind of people as well. Amazing world.

I hate these people and never give attention to these idiots but unfortunately living among them and encounter them from time to time. In-fact, I oppose these people wherever I can. The most important fact is that these people are responsible for making our life miserable. I wish god gives them some sense so that they can understand what they are doing is not right.

Hoping these people will understand the importance of a responsible citizen some day and my country will be a better place to live in….

Goa : Hot and Happening

We had heard a lot about Goa and its beaches all my life. I always wanted to visit the place with my girlfriend but she never showed interest. Never had a chance to go there with my college friends even after staying so close to the place. One day myself and my better half were chatting casually about a destination for the holidays coming up and finalized Goa in an instant. It was a quick decision and in no time we were on a flight to Mumbai from Kolkata. It’s like far-east to far-west of India. We took a bus from Mumbai in the evening after spending whole day with my brother in law.

So finally we were on the journey to Goa.

Its located in the west coast of India with an area of 3702 square kilometers. It is divided in to two parts i.e. North Goa and South Goa. The sea line is of Arabian sea and considered to be one of the most beautiful sea line in the world. It has 105 kms of Konkan coast stretching across the state of Goa providing a wide range of choice in beaches to suit everybody’s needs. When it comes to beaches, the visitor is spoilt for choice. North Goa has Sinquerim, Candolim, Calangute, Baga, Anjuna, Vagator, Morjim and Arambol beaches. South Goa has Velsao, Majorda, Betalbatim, Colva, Benaulim, Varca, Cavelossim, Mobor and Betul beaches. The other place you can see in Goa are Arvalem Caves, Rock Cut Caves of Khandepar, Arvalem Waterfalls, Kesarval Spring, Mayem Lake, Rock Art Museum, Aguada Fort, Cabo De Rama Fort, Chapora Fort, Rachol Fort, Reis Magos, Terekhol Fort, Cabo Raj Niwas (Raj Bhavan), Corjuem Fort and the ruins of the Fortress of Colvale.

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It was a 12 hour journey from Mumbai. The bus was a piece of Luxury. We were comfortable after sometime and extremely excited, made some videos of us together in the bus going on a second honeymoon, discussing each other’s experiences as well as expectations. We were provided black polythene in case we like to throw out due to the mountainous road ahead.

We reached around 8 am in the morning at Panjim, Goa. Panjim is the capital city of the Goa State. This part comes under north Goa. It has all facilities there for tourists like us. We choose a place in the center of the city. The reason is ridiculous but simple. We wanted to be among good food joints of the city as we are vegetarians and in Goa it’s difficult to find good vegetarian food near beaches. The non-veg is awesome according to people there.

I mean who does not prefer a hotel near or in the beautiful beaches of Goa and live in the concrete jungle, it was us… we the foodies. Myself and my wife both love Indian food. In fact you can say we live for food not we eat to live. We can sacrifice anything except food. See food came in this and I got emotional and wrote so many lines.

Anyway we had couple bath and we started our day with 2 beaches for the day. One was Donna Paula and the other a beach in South Goa called Kolva. We rented a scooter which is easily available and searched for a good vegetarian joint and found a nice place.

The place was filled with people at 11 am (opening time) and had a great ambiance with exceptional food. We loved it and it was in our itinerary every late morning for the next 4 days. We went to Donna Paula beach and fell in love with the sea. It was a long time for us to be so close to the sea, first time together. The beaches are rocky here and filled with small, colorful shops. Did some shopping and went ahead for clicks. The place had a bad history according to locals. People say that an English Lady committed suicide in the rocks after she failed in love.

We had our lunch there in the sea view hotel but I started my day with beer at 1:30 pm. Took on the streets and went for Kolva Beach. This was a 50 km trip one way and had great landscapes in between. In fact this trip from North Goa to South Goa gave us a lot about Goa and its culture. You will find lots of tourists from all over the world in Goa and due to this the place is more of a cosmopolitan state. My better half was sitting close to me tightly on the back seat and we thought we were in love again. Went on and on and never looked back. Goa is considered to be one of the safest places in India. The roads were good and people were cooperative and helpful for directions. We reached Kolva Beach and were awestruck with the beautiful pristine beach, white sands and peaceful ambiance  We were not in a mood to take a splash as it was four in the evening but did go in to sea for some fun. While returning back I noticed Goa is clean, green and has very low population. There were beautiful colorful homes but no people in the streets. We were lost at some point of time but were unable to find a single person for directions at few places. Somehow we reached our hotel by seven and crashed after some physical exercises.

Second day again we started our day late with good brunch and headed for Kalanghute and Baga beach while covering a Goan fort, old Goa churches and some small beaches. Kalanghute was ok. Spotted a quiet place in at the outskirts of the beach, kept our clothes aside and had lots of masti in the sea. Baga beach was our pick of the beaches as it had great food, beautiful beach with one side a mountain and the other side a sea. In between there is a small river flowing in to the sea. We had sun bath, beer and massage for hours as a result, didn’t wanted to get back to our hotel. Left the place after sunset, completely wet. In the mean time the rain gods went crazy and showered their blessings on us which was an added advantage when you are with your partner. Somehow the mood becomes romantic.

The next day we were clear, we wanted to go to Baga only while covering Vagator and after lunch we reached Baga beach, had a great day there for the rest of the day. We were lost in each others arms and pretty much in love. It was rainy evening and we were few meters inside the sea, remembered our love timelines, ups n downs, and special events. Later got emotional, had a nice evening at a local pub and cafe with rains setting the mood and at last took the best decision of our lives.

We wanted to be parents !!

That night was one of the best night of our lives and most importantly be remembered for various reasons which cannot be written here.

More importantly, we had a great second honeymoon and an awesome trip to be remembered for the rest of our lives. In the bus while returning back we got emotional to each other and talked about how we have made it this far, from childhood friendship to this married life. Things have definitely changed which she always complains after marriage but one thing is sure we are still mad about each other.

Now we want to take our son there as soon as he is ready to explore the nature’s one of the best gift to mankind… the sea and its beautiful beaches…

Liebster Award

I’ve been nominated for the Liebster Award!  Miya thanks a lot. It really feels great to be nominated for something, specially for awards.

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People you can find Miya’s blog on Travel, Music and fighting poverty @ http://miyaautumn.com

It has been a great experience, since I have started my blog few months back.  learned new things and made new friends here.

Here are the answers to the questions asked by Miya.

1.      Why did you start blogging, and what do you love most about it?

I always wanted to write a book but my writing skills were not good, so chose an option of blogging by accident. Now I love blogging and it feels great to share your experiences and admired by people. Also wanted to make friends, who share similar passions and interests. Above all its love about writing.

2. In which country would you most like to live? Why?

In India where I currently reside in. The reason is simple. I am a big foodie and cannot live without the food available here.

2.      What was your greatest experience in life up to now?

It was on 10/11/10 exactly at 5:15 pm when I took my son from the doctor just after his birth. I just fell in love with the little one. Since then I am having the best experience of my life.

3. For which character traits do you admire other people the most?

I guess Honesty and Integrity along with Care for others.

4. What does music mean to you?

Music makes me feel peace for an agitated mind at the same time keeps me in good mood after a bad day.

5. Which is your favourite language? Why?

Hindi, my native language as it makes me feel connected to people specially family and friends.

6. Who/what does most inspire you?

A word of praise and an instant success inspires me the most. If you have to choose a person than I will definitely choose my wife. She gives me enough reasons for inspiration in life.

7. What is your favorite dish?

It’s “Idli-Sambhar”. I think it’s the best dish in the world. It’s a south Indian dish which can be eaten at all times and most important, it’s very tasty and healthy too.

My nominations for the Liebster Award are:

http://globalgrazers.wordpress.com/

http://lifeoutofthebox.com/

http://miyaautumn.com/

http://thejigglybits.com/

http://currydemon.com/

Questions for nominated bloggers:

1. When and Why you started your blog ?

2. What is the best thing about travel and why ?

3. What is your source of inspiration and why ?

4. What comes in your mind when you close your eyes and why ?

5. Whats your blogging goal in the year 2013 and beyond ?

To accept this award, please:

  1. Thank the blogger who nominated you and share a link to that blog.
  2. Attach the award icon to your site.
  3. Answer some questions from the previous blogger and choose new ones for your nominees.
  4. Nominate other bloggers for the award.

With Best Regards,

Prash

Being a Parent : Blessing in Disguise

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Its 5 am right now and I am in train, sitting and writing this. My kid has spoilt my night. He is a free spirited kid, doesn’t like restrictions. Love to roam around in bed and definitely does not like noises while he is in deep slumber. Trains are all opposite in India. I was thinking of my fellow blogger “Teeny Bikini” post “6 Reasons not to have kids” and was getting in to the nitty gritties of it. Seriously one part of mind is saying that there are more than 1000 reasons “not to have kids” but other part still loves the fatherhood. It’s awesome for not getting irritated after this kind of bad night, There are cramps in my body due to sleeping in such confined place that too along with my son and still love is emanating from my heart. Its little strange but true.

In reality, I have loved being a father since the birth of my son 2 years ago.

  • Had many sleepless nights. In fact some nights have cried along with him out of tiredness, sleep deprivation and irritation. Some nights were even worse when I am out of the world in the couch and my kid is playing all over me.
  • Expenses have gone up steep upwards. In fact there is no bank balance now days. I have seen six figures on my account when I was a bachelor.  In fact wife also reduces the digits on your back account straight away.
  • Sex life is all F@?! Up. I and my wife are always tired every time, anytime of the day.  We don’t have time for even taking a proper bath, not even together.  What a life yaar!!!
  • As a couple we have not gone on a long trip to any place. In the mean time we have tried several short trips and it was okay. One long trip was a disaster, so we have not dared to venture on that territory again.
  • Never been on a romantic date with my wife in the last 2 years. In fact romance is out of our life soon after our kid was born. No candle light, no movie, no long drives, no ice-cream parties without headache.
  • Always looking for ” me time”  as I don’t get it. I had loved watching movies and TV sitting lazily in the couch. That’s a history now days. I am always outside for my official work and when I am home I am on duty for my wife and my kid. So basically I am working 18*7.
  • You wouldn’t believe before my kid people used to tease me that I don’t get angry at all. I am a cool type, the image I was okay with. Now you can call me an angry not so young man and my wife despises this as she is the one who bears the brunt and gives me equal and opposite reactions.
  • Have not slept well since a long time, seems to be an era. I and my wife were known as sleeping beauties through all our life. In-fact, after we were married, we were always late to our respective offices due to over sleeping. Our milkman, maid used to complain of ringing bell number of times while we were asleep. I used to love that but now I cant sleep more than 8 hours which is normal but abnormal for us and we don’t like it.

Actually the list goes on and on it but I don’t want to commit a second mistake ever in my life. One kid is more than enough for a life time. I wonder how people can take care of more than one. I have seen people holding world record in this category and I praise them for this dare but at the same time prey for their well being.

Still if you would ask me how you feel after taking a kid. I would say I love it and advise couple to have atleast 1 kid. You know what is so special about this love? I am sure all the parents would agree with me on this.

  • You will forget everything when your kid smiles at you for whatever reasons in the planet and you would want to love him back.
  • When he/she says “papaa” your life will go upside down and you will feel on top of the world. Its an awesome feeling.
  • When your kid holds your hand while he/she is attempting something new is a beautiful feeling and you would want that to happen over and over again. After some time your kid will also say enough dad, I am ok now, you need to let me go.
  • When your kid wants to play with you when you are tensed, you will forget everything about the tension and will start enjoying the play.
  • When your kid insists you to take him/her out. You will leave all important jobs and leave. You would want to make your son/daughter happy.
  • When your kid cries for something, looks at you in desperation to hold him and suddenly you will feel the most important person in the whole world.

The list goes on and on for this category as well. In fact it’s like 2 side of a coin. Both sides are relevant at the end of the day you can have only one side.

There are pros and cons of being a parent. You need to decide weather you want to be happy or you want to happy and responsible as well. I opted for the second one and I love it after these 2 years. I guess now I will have my freedom as well along with the great feeling of being a parent.

Here’s is me n my little one….

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Khajuraho : Visual Wonder

We had planned for the trip way back which is usually not my style but definitely a place of interest for me since not so long ago. I use to hear stories from people that Khajuraho is famous for sculptures that depict various sexual positions. There are lots of them. The whole temple is full of them and what not. It’s more or less related to Kamasutra (Ancient Hindu text which is considered to be the standard work on human sexual behavior).

I had heard about Kamasutra and its various techniques and positions, mostly unusual and impossible to attempt but are still famous. I wonder how many people do it exactly the way it is mentioned in the books.

Anyway I am not talking about sexual positions here as I am not an expert on this but certainly the visit to Khajuraho has made me clear that it’s not only about the above mentioned things. It’s about something different, which I realized when I was there few days ago. It’s about love, life, passion and religion.

Let me brief about the place first,

Khajuraho is a small village situated along a lake in Madhya Pradesh (heart of central India). Its spread over an area of 21 sq kms and is the most frequently visited monument after “Taj Mahal” in India. Its well known for Indo-Aryan architecture. The temples were built between the 9th and 11th centuries by the warrior kings of Chandela Dynasty. It is believed that only 25 temples still remains and can be seen out of 85 ones in this place.

By the 16th century, Khajuraho was almost lost in the history and have lost importance, turning out to be a place which is not visible in the map. Not until 1838 when Captain T.S. Burt rediscovered the temples. He was traveling on an official duty and made a slight change in his itinerary to visit the place based on the inputs from a local who was with him. He later recorded that he has spotted the finest number of temples situated in one place and all are within a small distance to each other.

The sculptures and carvings of the temples depict humans, human bodies, and the changes that occur in bodies, as well as facts of life. Approx 10% of the sculptures contain sexual themes. These are sexual activities between people.

Though the erotic sculptures are of Khajuraho are the main attraction to a visitor at the same time these sculptures has given Khajuraho too much publicity and popularity and hence the place has gained a big place in the world map.

I enquired about the erotic sculptures and got few answers which are really interesting.

1)       Gods are responsible for natural calamities and if at all gods come to this place they will go back immediately after looking at these erotic sculptures. They wont be able to tolerate these nuisance.

2)      These erotic sculptures are put in for those people who are not sincere guys. If you are a sincere guy these erotic sculptures won’t affect you. If you are not sincere than you will be lost in these sculptures and will have to come back again with much sincerity which will not affect you to these sculptures.

According to some books, these erotic sculptures came in to existence when Buddhist devotees were required to pass this interesting test to reach the stage of spiritualism. They were put in front of these kind of erotic sculptures to test their ability to resist themselves and come out without any kind of physical emotion.

There are 3 groups of temples — Western, Eastern, and Southern. The main temples are in the Western group, which features the magnificent Mahadeo Temple. The Eastern Group contains a number of exquisitely sculptured Jain temples. There are only two temples in the Southern group.

We started our journey from my base location “Bilaspur” for a place called Maihar. It’s a religious place for Hindu’s. We reached there in the morning and left the place by afternoon for Khajuraho which was 164 kms from our location. There was a beautiful forest range in between which we crossed at night, the place was scary as the forest was dense and the valley was full of sharp and steep turns. Spotted few deer and some more animals in between, which made our journey more interesting and our enthusiasm went straight upwards. Thankfully the roads were good and we reached around 7 pm. After crossing lots of small villages I thought Khajuraho is also a small village (a village with a population of 8000 people) and has only few temples to offer and I really mean it as I was not expecting much. I had seen lots and lots of temples recently and was not really looking forward for another bunch of temples.

We reached and attended the light and sound show which is held at the temple premises at night. It was a cold, dark and windy night but enjoyed the lights focusing on the temples based on the ruler’s timelines which I didn’t keen to learn but the ambience was nice and worth watching.

Went straight to bed but before that stalked by the agents of different hotels and guides.  It’s always advisable to use audio guides which are available at the ticket counter in Khajuraho.

Next Morning we woke up to a cold December morning and straight away went to the temples arena after getting ready. When I entered the place I was awestruck and looked all around and found myself as if I am in heavenly place. There were beautiful, huge and architectural brilliant piece of monuments.

We went on from one temple to another and were lost for few hours in the sculptures and carvings as well the architecture of temples. Everything was so very perfect and we loved the place as it’s well maintained and has everything tourists require.

Khajuraho Festivals

 

A week long classical dance festival is held in Khajuraho temple complex each year in February and March. There are performers and dance groups from all over India putting up a show on various classical styles of Indian dance, such as Kathak, Bharat Natyam, Odissi, Kuchipudi, Manipuri and Kathakali. A large arts and crafts fair is also held during the festival. There is a light and sound show every day in English and Hindi which is worth watching.

How to Reach Khajuraho

 

By Bus

Khajuraho from Jhansi are connected by buses but do confirm timings and also verify bus conditions. The local buses are crowded and take about 5-6 hrs to reach Khajuraho. One can also rent a car from Jhansi or Satna, which will roughly cost you up to Rs. 2000/- one way. A bus ticket costs approximately Rs. 100/- one way.

By Train

Jhansi (175 km) is well connected to Delhi by Bhopal Shatabdi . Khajuraho has recently got a new railway station and one can take a direct train to Khajuraho from Delhi’s Nizamuddin Railway Station that runs on Monday, Wednesday and Friday known as Sampark Kranti Express.

By Air

Khajuraho has its own airport and Air India and Jet Airways operates flight from Delhi directly or via Varanasi.